I’m writing a separate letter to each of my parents as they have been divorced since I was 5 years old.
I want to thank you for moving back in with Gran and Papa, after you got divorced from my dad. By doing that you allowed me to be cared for by family that loved me, when you were at work. It also allowed me to forge a strong relationship with my grandparents that I probably would never have had. A relationship that I will always, cherish.
I also want to thank you for always being there for me. No matter what is going on in my life I can always come to you and talk to you about it. I love that we have a close relationship. You’ve helped me get through some really tough times and I can’t thank you enough for that. Not to mention how big of a help you’ve been with my daughter. Knowing that I can rely on you when I need it most is a huge relief!
I know that sometimes we don’t see eye to eye and you often worry about me WAY more than you should, but I will always be grateful for the mom that you have been to me and I hope that you are proud of the woman that I have become.
I’m extremely lucky to be your daughter. I love you!
I know you beat yourself when you think about how we didn’t get enough time together, when I was growing up. I agree, every other Thursday for dinner, every other weekend and a few weeks in the Summer, was not enough. However, I cherish each and every one of those moments with you. I know you always tried to make the best of them and because of it each and every moment was quality time I got to spend with you. I’ve heard countless stories of Dad’s who just aren’t there for their kids once the parents get divorced. They stop paying child support and/or stop seeing their kid(s) all together. You were always there for me over the years, even though you may not even realize it yourself. Yes there is the surface stuff like you helped pay for my insurance, you always paid child support, and you always picked me up when you were supposed to. But it’s also all the small things too. All the silly games you used to play with me when I was little, the fun trips you’d take me on (ie Wheels Inn), and all of the times you’d just sit and listen to whatever was on my mind…from boys to a serious problem I was having. Not to mention how you were kind and understanding the first few times, after the divorce, I came to spend the night with you. You recognized I was scared and having a hard time and didn’t complain when I asked you to take me back to my Grandparents to spend the night. I still feel guilty about that, you know. How that must have hurt you to give up the little bit of time you had with me. Don’t think I don’t understand the sacrifice involved in that.
I know I often tease you for being a “dork”, with your cheesy jokes and your silly antics, but it’s one of the things I love about you most. I know you act like a goofball on purpose, just to get a laugh and you often get one…along with a groan. LOL It never, ever fails to make me smile.
I also want you to know how much I love watching you play with my daughter. It warms my heart how she gravitates towards you and that you spend lots of one on one time with her when we’re together. I know you must have hated watching SpongeBob the other day, but you tolerated it as she cuddled up with you. It means so much to me to see you with her like that.
I’m so lucky to have you as my dad!! I love you very much!